Did anyone's parents have sex around them?

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Did your parents have sex around you as a child?

And if so, what (if any) effect has it had on you?

Is it weird/confusing/traumatic for children, or does it provide a healthier and more realistic model of sexuality than pornography and school-based sex education?

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For sure. And just to be 100% clear: child welfare needs to be our top priority at all times and in all places, with no exceptions. Lemmy is international and multicultural though and the post is already producing thoughtful and responsible discussion based on lived experience.

I'm happy for mods to remove the post or even to remove it myself if the discussion becomes toxic or unsafe.

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just asking this question seems noncey

But why? Would it be noncey to talk about whether we got circumcised as children and how we feel about it now?

Most people who get circumcised are fine with it and think it's weird or gross to not be. I'm not cut and I hate the idea of it ever being done to me though. Odd how reality defies expectation there. I wonder if that is true of other men too. Hmm, maybe there are other topics this could also be true in, do you possibly think?

This question is about the habits of people's parents, and how it affected them growing up. This is not a question about fucking kids, and interpreting it as such is so out there it borders on the deliberate, which seems pretty fucking noncey to me. Why are you interpreting this as asking for permission to fuck kids?

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We are not talking about fucking in front of children, we are talking about the lived experience of people who that has happened to and how it affected them. That means you are the one drawing false equivalence (you are equating fucking in front of kids with talking about the impact it had on the person). These are life experiences and can be talked about without the need for any thought-policing by you.

I also made no assertions that the OP was asking for permission to be a paedophile.

Is that so...

just asking this question seems noncey

This you?

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I do however think it’s not an unreasonable assumption to make that a paedophile may want to read stories of parents sexually abusing their children.

Really, that's where you mind went from reading OPs question? I think that says more about you than OP.

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This wasn't really a thread about child abuse until you showed up.

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My parents encouraged destigmatization of nudity (nudist beaches, a shower or two together, etc.), but no they did not have sex around me or my siblings and think that’d be fucked up if someone told me their parents did that to them.

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I can't even think of how someone would have "sex in front of their kids". Sure, sex when kids are say in the next room, or in the same house seems harmless enough.

I imagine that OP meant a scenario like, "hey kids, don't come in our room without knocking, because we're going to have sex" instead of "this is how you give a BJ. Let me demonstrate on ur dad. Watch n learn bitch". If they meant the latter, then... uhhh yeah that's fucked up.

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Link to those studies, please.

There's a huge difference to just seeing a naked body doing its thing, like sauna, or swim, or relax in the sun, or sleeping, or ill; and the same body as an erotic object

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My sources aren't strong enough so I refuse to share them.

FTFY

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If it's so well trodden then share a review or meta-analysis, nobody (or at least not me, doubt anyone else either) will bother to dig out the referenced studies one by one.

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That's what I keep telling the community pool manager, but I'm still banned.

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I'd also like to investigate how this jives with the well documented sexual attraction dynamics of siblings. Those who grow up together are almost never attracted to each other no matter how much they see each other naked. Those that are raised separately and meet for the first time as adults are often very attracted to each other due to genetic reasons that apparently we have a mechanism for overcoming when raised together. I would expect to find there was a similar mechanism regarding our parents.

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That's a pretty unusual upbringing! How do you feel about it now that you've grown up? Are you a Wiccan yourself?

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Yes they did since houses are relatively small as far as distance go and there's plenty of couples with more than a child.

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And is that typical in the culture you're from?

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Indoor sex while parenting is not unheard of. It's not a highly discussed topic, but it's not frowned upon either.

You could probably find the odd parents that lose their drive while parenting.

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